Are They A True Friend?

Friendship

Friendship, what is it?  Well there are many levels of friendship.  There are those you like and associate with on occasion but it doesn’t go past that, then there are those you may have lunch with once a week or so, maybe go party with on occassion, then there are those who would lie for you, cock block for you, even go to jail with you and say we gotta do that shit again.

There are very few people in most peoples lives that a person can call a true close friend.  A friend so close that they would hold your hair while your vomiting from drinking to much or a friend who who would set you up with a couple of hot twin asians for a threesome, or even would go to jail with you and laugh the entire way.

Personally I can count on one hand the number of friends I can say that I felt I was close enough to that would do these things.  Even then these types of friends are supposed to be someone who you can tell anything too.  Your deepest darkest secrets too.  Your problems, ask advice, etc.  I honestly have ever only had two people I could do that with.  But some have more than one.  But I believe two or more friends like that are rare.  Most people only have one person they can truly open their entire lives too.  Is there anything wrong with that?  Not necessarily.

They say you should be able to express these things with your significant other but sometimes it’s your significant other you need to talk about and you can’t always do that with them so you need another person as a sounding board to get things off your chest.  Thats where that best friend comes in to play.  Now the key to having this friend is being able to filter what is good advice and what is bad advice because if they are a true friend they are always going to side with you and their advice may not always be to your benifit.  They may say, “Leave him you don’t have to put up with that” when the best advice would be “talk to him about what upset you and come to a comprimise”.  Even though they may want the best for you they may not always have the best advice for you, but they can always make you feel better.  So if you have that friend hold on to them if you can but filter their advice because not everything they say may be the best thing for you.

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15 thoughts on “Are They A True Friend?

  1. sakuraandme

    I think we all have really just a handful of true friends…the friends that you trust your life with and all that you hold dear. Everyone else is like an associate. I don’t mean that in a disrespectful way. hugs Paula xxx

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  2. ramblingsfromamum

    I have had a true friend for over 10 years, I work with her back then – the friendship grew. I am now working with her again – the friendship has changed, we use to socialise almost every week. Her partner and her and Mr. S and I, nothing since started working with her. Her body language has changed, her tone. She was the one who recommended me for the job… I am at a loss to understand.. as we get older you have a handful of ‘true’ friends at that, the rest are as Paula states acquaintances. This friend? I thought it may have been a struggle in the beginning but now after 5 weeks..it still is. Yes a true friends holds your forehead when you’re vomiting. 🙂 Good Post Rades – as you can by my lengthy response! 🙂

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    1. radaronelson Post author

      Sometimes those friends can feel threatened, especially in a job environment that the other friend may end up taking their job or that promotion they want and that’s when you find out they weren’t as close as you thought. Other times they may just need some adjusting. Thank you.

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  3. Shannygirl

    I am truly lucky. I have had several people in my life that has been there through it all and has always stood beside me no matter what. I have lost one to cancer but still have the other 4 or 5 and I know that even if we don’t talk for weeks we can pick up the phone and pick up exactly where we left off. Most of these people have been in my life for almost 30 years and I cant imagine my life without them. Losing the one was devastating to me as you know. When I talk to them and tell them things and they respond w/ “just go do whatever you want”.. I know they are just trying to make me feel better about myself because at that moment I feel pretty low. I take their advice with a grain of salt. There is nobody in this world that I can or ever will trust 100%, (and you above all know why that is) but these few I trust alot, almost as much as I trust you. If I add you all up together then I finally have 100% trust..hahaha

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  4. Enchanted Seashells

    I always say my hubs IS my best girlfriend. I don’t really have close gfs anymore. Friends from the gym, that’s about it. I’ve had some friend-not friends I plan to write about, maybe that’s why I’m gf-less!

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  5. saved in drafts

    I believe – and have learnt recently- that you have different friends for different things.

    My husband is one of my best friends, he GETS me, hes seen me at my best and worst…with and without clothes (and holds in the giggles too…THATS love lol) but like you say sometimes you need to talk about him to someone else…
    I also have a friend whom I have known for 22 years so she knows me inside out and understands WHY i am how i am because shes grown up with me, i can tell her anything, though some things i would be nervous about because i think highly of her and wouldnt want to let her down (though realistically that wouldnt be her reaction its how i feel sometimes)
    Then i have my female hubby, shes fun, we can talk easily but we attract drama and there are some things i wouldnt discuss with her. (When i first realised this i got upset thinking that meant that she isnt a REAL friend but i was wrong, shes amazing at other bits)

    Combined though i feel i have a great support network, all areas are covered, i feel its important to have friends going through the same things and others who have taken different roads so you can all have different insights 🙂

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