One thing I have learned over the years is children grow up. As parents, we don’t always want that to happen. Of course there are those times when we want to ring their necks and we can’t wait for them to grow up but over all we have a tendency to try and hold on to our children and think of them as a baby as long as we can. I was like that with my first child. She is now 20 and engaged to be married. I realized quickly though I had to treat her like her age but she also had the responsibility to act her age as well. My son is now 18 as of 30 Sep and I have always did my best to treat him like his age no matter what age he was and not think of him as that little baby. I try very hard to do the same for my soon to be 15 yr old daughter and my 15 yr old step son and soon to be 10 yr old step daughter.
Children are very impressionable. They will act the way they are treated and allowed to act and they will do what they are allowed to get away with. What a 4 yr old can get away with doing because he is 4 and doesn’t know better a 10 year old can’t or at least shouldn’t.
I have gotten a lot of flack over this by people more than once when the question has been asked if a child should still be allowed to do this or that now that they are older and I have said no. The attack has always been let them be kids, don’t make them grow up. You know what? I agree. I never said they should act 21 or 32. I think people misinterpret what I am saying. I’m not saying they should act like adults, I’m saying they should act their age. If they are 10 then they should act 10 not 3. If they are doing something a 3 yr old would do but a normal 10 yr old wouldn’t be then they need to learn to stop. The older you get the more responsibilities you have. That is just a fact of life. We shouldn’t excuse them of those responsibilities because we don’t want them to “grow up”. If we do then we are only hurting them and when they are ready to be on their own they won’t know what to do or how to be self-reliant because they have always had mommy and daddy there to do everything for them, tell them everything they need to know, or allowed to act how ever they wanted.
No one wants their kids to grow up. We all want them to be successful when they do though. So let’s give them that chance to be successful. Quit treating them like they are younger than what they are and force them if we have to, to act their age, no matter how SMALL or SILLY the infraction may seem. Even if what they are doing isn’t hurting anyone if it’s not appropriate for a 13 yr old then we should be there to stop them and show them correctly how to act for their age.
What are your thoughts on this?